What causes fights and quarrels among you?
Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?
You want something but don't get it.
You kill and covet but you cannot have what you want.
You quarrel and fight.
You do not have, because you do not ask God.
When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives,
that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
(James 4:1-3, NIV italics added)

Does this hit you like a splash of cold water in the face?

It would be bad enough if James was writing to non-believers.

But he's writing to The Church.

May we allow the Spirit to check our attitude and motives.

May we beg Him to remove anything He finds in us that is anti-Christ, opposite of Jesus.

May we follow His word in verses 7:

Submit yourselves, then to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Come near to God and he will come near to you.
Wash your hands, you sinners,
and purify your hearts, you double-minded.
Grieve, mourn and wail...
Humble yourselves before the Lord and he will lift you up. (James 4:7ff)

Grace & peace